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Help for Inmates
Building a Better Future... Through a Stronger Foundation
Help break the cycle of recidivism
Family Help - Assistance & Support
Important Steps To Success While Your Family Member is Inside
Seek Support
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From family members, friends, church, community agency or government service agencies ... anyone!
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If you have the time and energy, create a support group with other visiting families. Network! Since they are in the same situation you are in, they are the best resource for support (from emotional support to carpooling).
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Keep a journal.
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Don't isolate yourself! Your life MUST go on.
Be Real About Visiting
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Visiting costs time, money, childcare, emotions, patience... Don't beat yourself up if you can't make it this time around. There's always another time to visit.
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Space your visits so that both of you can enjoy the greatest benefits from your visit.
When You Visit, Be Prepared
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Make sure you are an approved visitor (you are on the visiting list) BEFORE you make the trip.
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Know the days and hours of visiting and any schedules the institution may adhere to.
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Make sure you are aware of possible lockdowns before you leave for the visit. This can be done with a quick phone call to the prison.
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Make sure you have everything you need for the visit.
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Make sure you don't have anything that is prohibited - read the rules and regulations ahead of time.
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Don't try to sneak anything in - you may lose your visiting privileges this time and in the future.
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Prepare emotionally. Visiting a loved one inside can be emotional - before, during, and most especially after the visit.
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Talk to your children (if any) ahead of time about the visiting process and check in with them after the visit is over. If it's a lot for you to deal with - think what it's like for them.
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If able, bring coins and small bills for the vending machines.
Budget Your Money
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If you are accepting collect calls from your family member who is incarcerated, expect higher phone bills and budget accordingly.
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Visiting is also an added expense - keep in mind the transportation costs, time factor (if you have to take the day off), childcare costs, lodging, etc.
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Know your limits and don't overstep them. Negotiate with your family member inside, and come up with a plan to stay connected without putting you in debt (from number of visits, number of phone calls you can accept, to sending him/her money, magazines, books and other needs).
Find Creative Ways to Save Money
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Try carpooling, through agencies or with other visitors, to visit a family member – share expenses, this will save a lot.
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Stay with friends or relatives who live nearby if possible.
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If you are in need of extra funds, find out if you qualify for any type of public assistance (i.e. food stamps, food banks, WIC, section 8, etc.) and use it.
Find Out What Resources Are Available To You
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Who are your visiting resources? For example: local community agencies, church groups, support groups.
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Call your phone company, or shop around for ways to get your phone bill down.
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Check out community agencies that are specifically geared for inmate families - they may have a list of resources in your area.
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If you are in need of a job, or additional educational training, contact your nearest ‘One-Stop Center’ and take advantage of the many programs offered by the Federal Government.
Stay Connected
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Remember that visiting is just one way to stay connected; phone calls and letters can be just as beneficial. Some institutions now provide email service for prisoners that qualify. But remember, there is generally a cost attached.
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Get involved. Participate in social programs, the workforce, families, communities, schools and religious institutions, you will find others who may be in the same situation as you are and you could be of great support to one another.
Be Honest With Your Kids
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Tell your kids the truth about their mother, father, sister, brother, etc. being in prison or jail. Many times, they know what is going on but are afraid to talk to you about it. By being truthful, you will provide them an opportunity to open up with their feelings and get answers to questions they may have.
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Your children may be facing a hard time in school or with their friends and they need your support more than ever, so give them the opportunity to share their thoughts and problems with you. If this is a hard time for you, imagine how difficult it must be for them.
Stay Positive
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Try to keep a positive attitude by not dwelling on negative thoughts. Normally, you can do very little to change the situation dwelling on things that are out of your control can only add to your stress level.
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When visiting, remember that the whole visiting process can be a trying and emotional process. Try to keep things positive and make the best out of the visit.
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Stay optimistic! It will make the entire process a bit easier to handle, and easier for you and your loved one to get back to your day-to-day routine.
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Try to enjoy your short time with your loved one or friend.
Stay Focused
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Don't lose sight of yourself, your family, and your goals.
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Remember you have a life to maintain outside … RIGHT NOW - your job, your children, your home, and most of all - yourself.
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Stay on point. Start working on re-entry plans and programs for when your loved one is released.
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You are Not Alone - Help is Available in Many Areas
2-1-1 call centers by United Way are a great source of assistance for everyone. They provide a wide range of helpful services.
211 Can Help Callers Access the Following Types of Services:
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Basic Human Needs Resources: food banks, clothing, shelters, rent assistance, utility assistance.
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Health and Mental Health Resources: health insurance programs, maternal health, medical information lines, crisis intervention services, support groups, counseling, drug and alcohol intervention and rehabilitation.
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Employment Support: financial assistance, job training, transportation assistance, education programs.
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Support for Older Americans and Persons with Disabilities: adult day care, congregate meals, Meals on Wheels, respite care, home health care, transportation, homemaker services.
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Support for Children, Youth and Families: child care, after-school programs, Head Start, family resource centers, summer camps and recreation programs, mentoring, tutoring, protective services.
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Volunteer Opportunities and Donations: community involvement, volunteer centers, disaster relief.
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Military and Family Support: programs that serve veterans and their families, community resources, mental health resources, counseling.
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Hobby groups and civic/service clubs: for people who have similar interests (gardening clubs, square dance groups, astronomy clubs, etc.) or are united by a common cause (political groups, Lions, Rotary Clubs, Kiwanis, etc.).
Types of Referrals Offered by 211
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Basic Human Needs Resources – including food and clothing banks, shelters, rent assistance, and utility assistance.
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Physical and Mental Health Resources – including health insurance programs, Medicaid and Medicare, maternal health resources, health insurance programs for children, medical information lines, crisis intervention services, support groups, counseling, and drug and alcohol intervention and rehabilitation.
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Work Support – including financial assistance, job training, transportation assistance and education programs.
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Support for Older Americans and Persons with Disabilities – including adult day care, community meals, respite care, home health care, transportation and homemaker services.
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Children, Youth and Family Support – including child care, after school programs, educational programs for low-income families, family resource centers, summer camps and recreation programs, mentoring, tutoring and protective services.
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Emergency Suicide Prevention – referral to suicide prevention help organizations. Callers can also dial the following National Suicide Prevention Hotline numbers operated by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services
Administration of the Department of Health and Human Services:
1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
1-888-SUICIDE (1-888-784-2433)
1-877-SUICIDA (1-877-784-2432) (Spanish)
Mothers of Incarcerated Sons Society
Programs for chilren and families AL-MO
Programs for children and families MT-WY
Reentry & the family - The Benefit Bank
Child nutrition programs information
Supplemental Nutrition Assistance Program
Temporary Assistance for Needy Families
ehow-help loved one get out of prison
foodnotbombs.net - groups in U.S. directory
2-1-1 United Way information/referral service
benefits.gov - gov benefits available to you?
DailyStrength - online support groups
DailyStrength - families of prisoners support
FeedingAmerica.com - search local food banks
Help for families - Office of Family Assistance
Office of Head Start-Admin for Children/Family
How to cope w/loved one encarcerated - ehow
Human Services - state contacts
Low Income Home Energy Assistance Prog
Please check out the following links. They may provide assistance in your family related research and your efforts in finding family programs that may be helpful to your situation.
More Family Resources
FAMILY & CORRECTIONS NETWORK
93 Old York Road Suite 1 #510
Jenkintown PA 19046
Provides ways for those concerned with families of the incarcerated to share information and experiences in an atmosphere of mutual respect. Offers an email list and many online resources.
FAMILIES AGAINST MANDATORY MINIMUMS
1100 H Street NW
Washington DC 20005
(202) 822-6700
Gathers data from inmates sentenced to mandatory minimum sentences. To submit a case for profiling, send written summary. Hundreds received, few used, but everyone receives email newsletter.
GIRL SCOUTS BEYOND BARS (Central Texas)
12012 Park Thirty-five Circle
Austin TX 78753
(512) 453-7391
Program allows incarcerated mothers and their daughters to spend positive time together to break the incarceration cycle and enhance the bond between mother and daughter during incarceration.
MOTHERS (FATHERS) FOR THE ADVANCEMENT OF SOCIAL SYSTEMS
3737 Atlanta Street, Dallas, TX 75215
(214) 421-0303
MASS Inc. has helped people being released from prison readjust to life without bars and providing support for the children and families of adult offenders at high risk for substance abuse, medical or emotional disorders and poverty.
PRISONTALK ONLINE
PO Box 73151
Houston TX 77273-0151
Free online forum for prisoners and their families.
ADDITIONAL PROGRAMS, SUPPORT GROUPS & ORGANIZATIONS
The following are a list of additional organizations and support groups that provide assistance and programs for inmates, families and children. For additional information, you are encouraged to visit their websites.
Center for Children of Incarcerated Parents
This organization conducts and supplies research around the effects of parental incarceration, offers educational programs, helps reunite families that have been separated due to incarceration, and offers therapy and counseling for children and families affected by incarceration. To view the programs they have available.
Friends Outside National Organization
They provide support and assistance for inmate families, offenders and ex-offenders. Friends Outside chapters are located in communities throughout California. Check out the website for the location of the various chapters.Their services include:
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Victim/offender mediation
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Support groups
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Crisis intervention
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Employment referrals for inmates, their families and ex-offenders
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Juvenile offender prevention/diversion programs
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Recreation/education programs for children of incarcerated parents
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Work furlough facilities
http://www.friendsoutside.org/
Families of Prisoners
Families of Prisoners is a loosely bonded organization of ALL the individuals and groups fighting for prisoners and family members rights. This organization is intended as a tool to let others know what they are doing in the fight against the abuses of the DOC. No matter what state you are in or what you are fighting, post your groups activities here, post copies of the letters you write for those without the same confidence in their abilities to use, post flyers, request for help and let others know what you are doing .
https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/families_of_prisoners/info
Inmate Support Groups
This group allows you to share your experiences, advice, support, joys, and sorrows in regards to addiction, recovery, or an incarcerated loved one. They work with incarcerated men and women, as well as their family members, in addressing the underlying issues which may have put them in prison. Many of these reasons may include addiction, depression, poverty, racism, lack of education, no exposure to spirituality and more.
https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/inmatesupportgroup/info
Prisoner Support Group
This community is composed of families and friends of prisoners, ex-inmates, ex-offenders, lawyers, paralegals, concerned citizens, elected officials, and even current and ex-prison guards who realize we have to make changes in the system we have now. With over 1000 members with a 55%+ daily activity ratio, you are sure to find the support, love and information for which you have been looking.
https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/California-Inmate-Family-Support/info
Support for Inmates N Their Family
This is a general online support and chat group for prison inmates, and their family.
https://groups.yahoo.com/neo/groups/04_Support_For_Inmates_N_Their_Family/info
Prisoner Support Program:
http://www.tbnsecondchance.org/